If your spouse wants a divorce and you don’t, there is going to be a clash. Tension will be high along with stress. As long as there is a war of wills you are going to find it difficult to overcome your spouse’s desire. What you must do is defuse to tension enough to allow communication to take place. Below are some tips to help.
1. Act like you are perfectly happy about what is taking place. In reality you are overcome with grief but don’t show it. Tell your souse they are right and you would be happy with anything they want. You are taking the pressure off of them to be defensive because you agree with them.
2. Don’t try to reason with them and talk them out of the divorce. They will close off their mind to reason and use negative feeling to react back at you. Agree with everything your spouse says about why they are leaving. Do not defend yourself, just agree with them and sound like you mean it.
3. Do not complain or put pressure on them.
Be consistent with this. Don’t slip in the middle of a conversation and disagree with then. Try to avoid long serious talk with them. Keep it to simple small talk so you avoid any confrontation up front. If you want to win your partner back, the worst thing you can do is disagree with them. Never do it because it won’t stop your divorce!