Do you, like many others get frustrated or angry at things that have happened or maybe did not happen? It could be something your spouse said or even something they have done. Whatever it was it has left you frustrated. Maybe it was something your spouse failed to do or they neglected something they were supposed to take care of.
This may push you make your opinion known to your spouse about this. It is in this situation that the good marriages pull through and the bad marriages start to fall apart.
In a good marriage the couple would be able to voice their complaint or criticism in such a manner that it would not cause a backlash from the partner. They would create cooperation by presenting their view in a diplomatic manner, with the goal of resolving the issue.
To fix a marriage that has been suffering from lots of stress, that is the kind of approach you would have to take. Many times couples will want to express their feelings with anger, sometimes taking it to extremes. They will criticize their partners way of doing things and the things they may say, showing no respect for their view.
Would this approach invite cooperation from you if your partner treated you this way? I think not, the person receiving this kind of treatment will feel if necessary to defend themselves and things will escalate out of control